Making the TimePosted: February 18, 2012
Whether we work full-time, part-time, or stay-at-home…
Whether we’re married, divorced, or single…
Whether we have a million other obligations in this world or not, our top priority has to be our children.
When I come home from work, there is dinner to be made, cleaning (an endless amount of laundry and dishes!) to be done, bills to be paid, a dog and a cat to be taken care of, preparations to be made for the following day, and–especially in my current pregnant condition–some much-needed daily relaxation time. But there is also a husband to connect with, and a five-year-old son who loves me, has missed me all day, and has looked forward to the few short hours at home with myself and his father before his (dreaded!) bedtime. I think we can all see what my top priority has to be in that list of daily responsibilities. By putting my child first, I am showing him that I reciprocate his love, and that he is deserving of my time. What a confidence booster! That’s when true self-esteem building occurs for our children, and it’s one of the best tools in life that we can give our children, just by taking the time for them.
Here is a great article that I found on Parenthood.com on why making the time to play with your children is so important:
While I encourage you to read the entire article, I know that your time is precious, and so I will give you some of my favorite highlights:
- Through play, we can enter the world as our children see it, allowing us to strengthen our bond and learn about their views of the world around them. By knowing what’s going on in their life (because it will come out during play!), we can help them sort things out and to develop critical problem-solving tactics.
- By playing with our children, we help them to master social and cooperative skills, help them to regulate their mood and behavior, and become more creative problem-solvers.
- Find time each day to play with your children. Whether it’s for 20 minutes, 30 minutes, or more as your other responsibilities allow, it’s more about the quality of time versus quantity. Just make sure that your child gets to decide what you play (so that you can show you’re interested in what he or she likes!), and give your child 100% of your attention for that amount of time. No phones, computer, TV, or any other distractions, so that you’re child knows that they have your undivided attention, because they are worth it.
…And connecting with my husband can always occur after our son’s 8pm bedtime. 🙂